After spending the past half hour chatting with a friend of mine who is always so depressed about his life, I felt the uncontrolable urge to blog on it. I told him we are the designers of our own lives. We create how our life will turn out by the choices we make. I rarely leave my house because I allowed my fears to hold me prisioner. I am fat because I eat too much and exersize too little. I live alone because I push away people that would like to get closer to me. I told him we must all take responcibility for our own lives as we ourselves have created them. Have others offered some of the materials from which our lives are formed? Yes they have, but it was our choice as to use them or not. We can not control others actions we can only control our reactions to them. If someone is giving you bad building materials like insults,destructive chritisma, gossup,we can choose to throw these things away and use stornger more positive things to shape our lives. In the words of a very wise Indian friend (from India) Cast off those that would seek to keep you down and make you feel less then you are. Keep only those that lift you up and make you feel strong.
I told my sad friend that if he does not like his life as it is he should change it. If he wants a girl he should stop being so pervy and be more polite and respeckful. I told him most girls like guys that treat them with respect and caring not ones that treat them like a toy there for the sole purpous of amusing them. I told him if you do not want to be alone change it. Make the changes in yourself that you need to turn your life into what you want it to be. If we are not happy with who we are or how our life is we have only ourselves to blame.
